Well, well, well, sadly, the end is finally here. Since this will be my last “Dear Dee Dee” for the Activist, I thought I should end it with a big bang. From the first issue, my back page hugging column has stirred up much controversy, starting with the “pious bisexual.” I have to admit that I never imagined anyone would ever take the time to read what I wrote, let alone write me emails for advice or to complain. It left me in awe when I saw that readers felt it was important enough to write in to voice their opinions.
I get the biggest kick when I introduce myself to people here at RWC as Dee Dee, and then in response they ask me if I am “the girl who writes that advice column.”
I have made many friends through this paper. One in particular even plagiarized my words while I was talking to him. Yeah, here I was standing with this group of people that I just met in the lobby, when I mentioned that I didn’t understand why Japanese culture is leaking into American gothic subculture. One of my now very good friends responded later with “Well, you know that Hot Topic is the Gap for the non-conformist.” At that I dropped out of the conversation for a few minutes until I realized where I heard those words before; they were my words that I wrote when I did My World during the second issue for this school year!
At the time I didn’t know how to react, so I just casually said that those were my words written for the Activist. Soon after, he asked if my name was Dee Dee and then confessed that all he read out of the Activist was “Dear Dee Dee.”
Another memorable moment happened when I was on my way to the last Activist pizza party, and a shy girl asked if I was “Dee Dee of Dear Dee Dee, when a friend shouted my name in a farewell down the hallway. When I said that I was, she then asked for my advice, which I was all too happy to supply her with. Sitting here now on my computer I look back all giddy to think that someone actually thought my words were important enough to take seriously, and also could see the humor my column should bring.
Okay, enough of this nostalgic crap.
Dear Dee Dee,
First off I am going to tell you that I am engaged and very happy. When I was at the club, I met this guy who could really dance. He told me that he salsa dances Monday nights and asked to take me some time so we exchanged numbers. The next morning I woke up with two missed calls. I called him back and after talking to him for awhile I invited him over my house to watch a DVD. He called me back soon after he left, and we talked for two hours until he said that he had to leave. Then he called me back, and we talked for another two hours. I keep getting over 20 texts from him a day, and we just met last weekend. What’s going on? Does he like me?
Confusing salsa dance
Dear Confusing salsa dance,
First: Girl, you are engaged to be married. Why should it matter if he likes you? Second: run away! Run away for your life! Can anyone say stalker!? Hey, all I am saying is I wouldn’t be surprised if someone found your badly stabbed body in your home, with him having a tea party with it in his mother’s clothing while orgasming over the smell of your hair. Third: Yes, he likes you. How can you not tell? Look sweetheart, you are supposedly happy and going to be married. Don’t screw that up or you will regret it.
Dear Dee Dee,
Earlier this week I got stopped on my way to school by one of my classmates. He punched me and gave me a black eye. He said it was because I’m gay, and he saw me flirting with his best friend. The problem is his best friend, and I have been going out since last month. Neither of us knows what to say to him so I’m asking you for help.
Yours truly,
Hit by the homophobe
Dear Hit by the homophobe,
Wow, your life needs to be on MTV. Okay, wait. Now that I mentioned that channel (I knew I couldn’t leave without ranting about this), MTV=music television. There is nothing on that channel but ridiculous shows starting with that “real world” drama filled mess. Daria was great, but since MTV loves to suck all the happiness out of me (especially by fueling the mindless), they took it off the air. Good job MTV.
Anyway, the best thing to do in your situation is to sit the kid down and talk to him. That’s all you really can do that and file assault charges. But I highly don’t recommend that because it may just cause more drama. First, see how he reacts to your news before you bring the law into it. If he tries to hot you again, hit him back because you are protecting yourself, and he threw the first punch.
Dear Dee Dee,
I’ve been having some feelings for a co-worker. I think she likes me too, but I have a bad feeling about intra-work relationships. She seems like a really great person, but I’m scared of relationship feelings getting in the way at work and work feelings getting in the way of the relationship. This is, of course, if she doesn’t outright reject me. That would just be awkward and sad and prove that I’m pathetic, which I am not! What should I do? Ask her out, or just keep my feelings to myself?
Workin’ the workplace
Dear Workin’ the workplace,
Dude I would leave it alone. Your personal life and work should not mix, and I have learned that the hard way.
Okay, Dee Dee is going to tell you a little story, where she changes the names around to only protect herself. Back in the day when she first started her job, she found that she enjoyed talking to one of her co-workers, so she exchanged numbers with him. She was not interested in him at all because he had even more baggage than she had (she had enough on her own), and she just couldn’t see herself sexually with him. Oh yeah, and she had a boyfriend who she was promised to and wore the ring religiously. Dee Dee made all this clear, and he still wanted to be friends, so they hung out quite a lot. Let’s fast forward over all the drama, and let’s just say that now Dee Dee wants to take a hammer to his truck, but it wouldn’t make much difference because it already looks like a piece of crap. Oh and they all lived happily ever after when my, I mean Dee Dee’s, manager changed his schedule. Just think about it, you will have to work with her even if it all grows sour.
Dear Dee Dee,
I haven’t had any alone time in two whole weeks. My girlfriend is always around. She even insists on driving me to classes and to work. I do love her and all, but I just need some time on my own to think, and I wouldn’t turn down a night out with the guys either. How can I tell her ever so nicely to back off a little bit?
Sincerely,
Searching for Space
Dear Searching for Space,
Honey, you both had lives before you started dating, and you can not go wrong with telling the straight up truth. Just take into consideration that she may not realize what she is doing, and it may hurt her a little bit when you tell her. But when you are out with the guys, she will have time to think about how clingy she has been and will hopefully back off.
If not, you are going to have to reevaluate the relationship and see if this is what you really want. If you really meant to say that you love the sex when you said that you “love her,” then, yeah, I would really think about everything because before you know it you could be pressured by society to marry, and you will have to deal with her for the rest of your life. Oh joy.
Look just because I am not going to write for the Activist anymore doesn’t mean that I’m still not here to help. If you need me, you know how to contact me: Vandyndy@uc.email.edu.
Last issue’s reminder:
Don’t take life too seriously; some times you lose and some times you win. Remember that without the bad days you can not have good ones; they come hand in hand. Also don’t ever be afraid to live because you never know when you are going to die, and the worst death of all is one with regret.
Much love,
Dee Dee