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I’m an adult: are you?

People going out of their way to bother you, 15-year-olds dating 20-year-olds, and people being hypocrites are just some the things that I witness on a daily basis. But why? I am 20-years-old, and I believe that I am coming into adulthood and that I behave accordingly. Unfortunately I cannot say that about a lot of people. I need people to step up and act like responsible adults when it comes to making decisions. Every action has a reaction; therefore, your decisions have consequences that can and may affect the people around you, whether you know it or not.

Call me old fashioned, but I am a firm believer that “age matters.” I constantly hear people say that the heart knows no age, or that age is only a number. I think those people are ignorant.

Until statutory rape no longer exists and people stop losing years of their lives in jail for it, then age matters. Why are you 20-year-olds putting yourselves into a relationship with a 15-year-old? Why are you a freshman in college having sex with a freshman in high school? It makes no sense to me.

Okay, so the younger person SEEMS to be mature, but why can’t you just find a mature person your own age? You really like picking up your boyfriend/girlfriend from school and getting him/her home by curfew so your “lover” won’t get put on punishment? This makes me think that the younger person isn’t mature, but that the older person is just immature.

When I graduated from high school, I thought the he-said-she-said crap went out the door, but it seems as if it got worse. One day I was having a conversation with a friend of mine as we were grocery shopping. As I was attempting to decide which cereal I wanted he said, “Ok, I know it is none of my business, but did you have sex with @$#*%@?” The idea of me even looking at that person sexually disgusted me, and I literally gagged. My friend went on to tell me that the guy I supposedly had sex with told a mutual female friend of theirs that I had sex with him.

This seriously annoyed me, so I had to get this cleared. A couple of days later, I held a four-person conference call. First I called my friend who went shopping with me, and then he called the mutual female friend. They told me the story again; then I had them call my alleged “sex buddy” and question him once and for all.

When I asked him if we ever had sex, he said no. The mutual female friend then recalled the date and time that he told her this little sex story of his. The guy then said, “I meant to say umm–Corrie not Courtney.” That pissed me off because I knew he was not telling the truth. He ended up apologizing a week later.

Hypocrisy seems to have also gotten worse since I graduated. For instance, this guy I went to school with called my best friend Torren fake. The guy said that Torren would shake his hand and smile in his face then turn around and talk about him behind his back.

Torren doesn’t even acknowledge the guy’s existence. Also Torren has a particular type of personality. If Torren wanted to talk about the guy, he would have said it to his face.

But I think the guy had it backwards. He needs to be calling himself fake. He would be the one talking about Torren, basically calling him a gay virgin. Then the next time he saw Torren, he extended his hand first to greet Torren. You cannot sit there and try to criticize somebody about certain aspects of their lives when you are doing the same thing or something even worse.

Moving out on your own and turning another year older does not make you an adult. You have to respect and do unto others as you want them to do unto you. You have to not only acknowledge your actions but also be responsible for those actions and realize that the consequences of those actions do not always affect only you.