Dear Dee Dee, I am having problems detecting my potential boyfriend’s emotions. It’s like when we go out on dates he’s really shy and quiet, and when I see him at school he acts like a completely different person. Is there a specific reason for his shyness?
Confused Girly-Girl
Dear Confused Girly-Girl,
Don’t worry about a thing, because the way he is acting is perfectly normal. A lot of people are just shy (as simple as that). When you two are at school, he has his friends around like a safety net; there is no pressure for him to perform. But when you two are alone together, he may feel like he has more pressure to impress you, with both his words and his actions (therefore his being quiet is his safety net). One way to get your boy toy to open up is play 21 questions, or just the good old fashioned route of “how was your week?” Don’t force the flow or fight it; just go with it. Understand? Good.
Dear Dee Dee,
I have a problem; my girlfriend is a drunk. She drinks so much she comes home smashed and wakes up with a drink in her hand. It’s so bad I can’t stand to have sex with her anymore. Help!!
Booze-lovers Boyfriend
Dear Booze-lovers Boyfriend,
If you have a drop of feeling for this poor girl, you would council her to get help for her drinking problem. But if she fights all your attempts to get her help, then that would be the time when you think about whether or not you feel she is worth the hassle. Some people just don’t want to get help, either because they don’t acknowledge their problem, or because they feel too ashamed to. Interventions are always a good way to help the person acknowledge their problem, and understand that they are not just hurting themselves, but the ones they truly love. If you love this girl, then I feel you should stick it through. Who knows? This whole ordeal might even bring you two closer.
Dear Dee Dee,
What do I do? My friend has a problem with stealing, and she acts like it is on me. I don’t steal so how could that be? Do I keep her as a friend or kick her to the side?
Sick of Her
Dear Sick of Her,
Apparently your friend is living in denial. The question you need to ask yourself is, is she good enough to be in your company? Do you really want all that drama in your life? Think about this, you and your friend are at the mall and she gets caught stealing. You could get arrested with her, as her accessory, since you did know what was going on, and you didn’t turn her in. Now I am not saying become a rat, but I just wouldn’t want to be in that situation (like I said…too much flipping drama). Kick her to the side, girl.
Dear Dee Dee,
I’m a bi-sexual girl who has troubles reconciling my faith with my sexuality. Where should I draw the line between a faith and lifestyle that both define me?
Pious Problems
Dear Pious Problems,
Honey, you are who you are, so don’t get wrapped up in all that label BS, and lose sight of what you really believe. Do you ever hear a heterosexual Christian ask that question? No, so you shouldn’t give it much thought either. (And please do not bother me with your emails; I am not singling out Christians. That was just the first religion that popped into my head.)
If you absolutely adore my advice, and have your own questions to ask, please feel free to email me at vandyndy@email.uc.edu.
This issue’s reminder: What goes around comes around.
Much love,
Dee Dee